The short answer.. Feel them. I write this on day when my own Heart feels a little tender. Sometimes when we close our eyes to Meditate, despite our desire to experience Peace, Calm and Bliss, we are met with grief and tears. This is great! Although most people don’t see it that way because they think they are doing Meditation wrong if emotions arise and there are lots of thoughts, fears and worries.
When we Meditate we soften. We open ourselves up. The body goes into a deep state of rest in which it begins to “heal” itself. It is not surprising then, that whatever we have suppressed goes, “whoo hoooo” and tries to make a quick escape! This is not always tears, sometimes it’s the giggles that escape(you know those times where you’ve been bursting to laugh out loud but it’s just not a socially accepted situation).
Dealing with emotions in Meditation causes many people much confusion and distress. This is unnecessary. Just as thoughts are ok, so too are emotions. I encourage you to welcome whatever is arising with an open Heart. Practice feeling the emotion without any judgement of it. Feel it without having to “do” it or act it out. Welcome it without going into stories about why it’s there, and if stories and judgements arise, well when you see them welcome them too.
If you can SEE all of it and welcome it all, allow the tears, see the stories for what they are and Love yourself regardless, it does not have to matter. Tears are the body’s spring cleaning system. There are many people that have had spontaneous physical healings by allowing themselves to feel and release the emotional pain they are carrying with not a pharmaceutical drug in sight.
Emotional pain is heavy. In Meditation you have the opportunity to lay down your burdens and give them up to something greater than your own bodymind. You will have to release emotions again and again and again if you are a Heart centred Compassionate being. I urge you to learn to be ok with feeling your emotions. Once they have left your body you will feel so much clearer and brighter.
One of my Meditation teachers, Narain Ishaya, once said to me, after discussing the sensory overwhelm I still to this day experience in my body, to not make them a problem. If they happen they happen, if they don’t they don’t. He encouraged me to fully enjoy the moments in-between, which up until that point were focused on trying to “fix” myself so they wouldn’t happen again. All the while I was not Present and missing out on the Beauty and Joy available to me when there was actually no problem.
So now I cry when I cry, I laugh when I laugh, I welcome it all whatever is happening and there is so much more Joy in my life and far less anxiety attacks. On days when I feel low, I absolutely know that feeling will pass if I welcome it. Sometimes that feeling is a signpost to encourage me to make a change in my life, or to express a grievance or express my Love and Gratitude.
Meditation gives us space to feel our emotions and KNOW more clearly how we REALLY feel, which isn’t always comfortable as it may lead to the need for major life changes or difficult conversations. The suppression of feelings and the denial of our subjective Truth causes us much suffering. Sometimes in just acknowledging a feeling it leaves us and we realise that it was actually linked to a past situation, not the one we find ourselves in Now. As our awareness expands we SEE more and we have more choice in how we respond to life.
IMPORTANT: If you have suppressed trauma that comes up in Meditation it is very important that you get external support from a qualified psychologist to help you come to terms with what is arising. Sometimes we need to do deep healing work and even stop Meditation for a while, while we reconcile with the traumas of our past.
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I hope on reading this you will no longer be afraid of your tears and if they come up in your Meditations you will celebrate the Freedom they are bringing you.
Blessed Be
Raye x
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The Bendy Witch 
So many people need to hear this, and similar messages: that it really is OK to be a fucked up mess. Society wants a normal, but not only can’t figure out what that means, also creates intense abnormalities and suffering in the process.
Thank you for the message of being as you are, with all the mess
It’s interesting how we are conditioned to believe and are labelled a fucked up mess for having healthy and normal reactions to heinous situations! We for sure, as Human Beings, need to remember Compassion, to cultivate it in ourSelves, for ourSelves and also for others. May we all learn to cry again and if necessary wail loudly as indigenous Grandmothers once did! Not only do we need to learn how to cry again but also to allow other people to cry, and be a mess, to not shut them down because we feel helpless, uncomfortable or ashamed. The collective Human nervous system is bursting with grief and it takes brave Souls to not just cry our own tears but to cry for those who are as yet unable, not in safe situations or have no support systems, to acknowledge and release their own pain. I remember Narain saying to us, if an Angel came and asked you to move some energy through Humanity’s Nervous System and it meant you looked like a mess for a few days, what would you say? For me it was a resounding YES to the mess! 👼🏼😭🤣