Sometimes you have to accept that some aspects of your life aren’t working out, whether it’s work, relationships or goals. Sometimes you need to sit in the reality of that realisation, to feel the uncomfortableness of your honest feelings. Whether they are genuinely intuitive or fear based it matters not, as you will need to accept how you actually feel in this moment, without judgement, if you want to move out of states of inertia and “pretend” paralysis that hold you back.
Pretend paralysis is when you pretend you are ok with something that you’re clearly not, in the hope that things will get better. I have been an expert at this for many years! It is only since I started Meditation that I’ve been able to be more Radically Self Honest. I still catch myself playing “pretend” sometimes, yet now I’m aware of it and have developed, through consistent practice, the ability to feel and allow my feelings without judgement and take necessary, often uncomfortable, action (not always immediately).
I’ve noticed this Radical Self Honesty frees up so much energy. It helps me SEE again. New solutions and directions are freed to come forth and my body physiologically is freed from much unconscious tension. It takes A LOT of energy to pretend.
A poem you might like to check out: Take Off Your Mask
There are many variables as to why you might not be ok with something. There may be genuine red flags that need to be waved, boundaries to be set, difficult conversations you’re avoiding that may lead to endings but also new beginnings. There may be genuine reasons why you cannot address a situation “right now”, it may not be safe to do so and yet that doesn’t have to stop you from acknowledging (if only to yourself) how you really feel. In doing so you are opening a doorway to support and solutions that were possibly there all the time and you now might just be able to see.
There may be Self enquiry needed, an opportunity to own a projection based on fear, or the past, to accept and be honest about your own neurosis and not so desirable behaviours and that you have no idea how to release such states. It is highly likely what you deem as negative is a completely normal and human reaction to a not desirable situation, outcome or trauma. Which is why Radical Self Honesty must always be met with the Wisdom and Compassion of your own Heart.
When we are Radically Self Honest, that one step takes us back into the flow of the river of Grace.
Divinity means: The ability to transcend perceived human limitations.
GREGG BRADEN
Someone told me recently, that it has been proven that a feeling only lasts 90 seconds. I have no data to back this up other than my own experience, which I would say corroborates this fact. This is not a palatable fact if we have been holding onto grievance to avoid a feeling for years. Forgive yourself, forgive the other or if you can’t proclaim that you don’t know how, then get on with and reclaim your life.
Join us tonight for Meditation Cafe 7.30pm on zoom to begin (or hone) your journey of Radical Self Honesty through Meditation and Heart centred Self Enquiry. The practice itself does all the work, your only part is to welcome whatever is arising with a Willing and Compassionate Heart. Here’s the registration link:
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